Welcome back to White Rose of Avalon my Darlings. Today’s post is about some of the best ways I have found to tap into Sacred Sexuality. Sacred Sexuality has long been something I have valued in my life, even before I knew what to call it. I have always been very in tune with my body and felt no shame in experiencing pleasure, but society certainly seems to want us to feel shame when it comes to our bodies and our sexualities, which leads to much trauma and Shadow hangups around sex. This is definitely true for even myself, as much as I thought sexuality was something to embrace and view as a beautiful and natural part of life. You see, I knew that many people thought it was dirty and wrong because of backward and puritanical thought common in the Western world, leading me to have a fear surrounding discussing my view of sexuality as beautiful when I was young. With that little preamble out of the way, let’s look at some of my top tips for tapping into your own Sacred Sexuality!
SHADOW WORK TO OVERCOME THE STIGMA AGAINST PLEASURE
~The first thing that I find to be very important in order to truly tap into your own sexuality is to do Shadow Work to help overcome any stigmas against pleasure you may have. In general, Shadow Work is an important aspect of spirituality, but it should be stepped into slowly depending on your experience level and psychological state. With that disclaimer, I will state that if you are psychologically ready to delve into Shadow Work surrounding your connection to your body and sexuality, it can be a very profound step to learn to embrace the beauty of your own pleasure!
YOGA: KUNDALINI, TANTRA, SLOW FLOW PRACTICES
~The second tip I have to embrace your Sacred Sexuality is to practice yoga, but in particular practicing certain styles of yoga really helps me tap into my own Sacred Sexuality. I prefer Kundalini, Tantra (they do overlap and some Kundalini is also Tantric), and Slow Flow styles of yoga to fully tap into my sensuality and feel great in my own body!
BELLYDANCE
~The third tip I have to embrace your Sacred Sexuality is to learn and practice Bellydance. Now, I have never been formally taught, as I have not had the opportunity to take live classes, but I have learned through many excellent videos! I think that Bellydance is not something that you need to learn in a classroom, or even desire to perform for others since the sensuality of the movements is the most important thing for tapping into your sexuality. If you are lucky enough to find a great class to learn Bellydance formally or get the opportunity to dance on stage for others, that is amazing! But know that you can use Bellydance for self-love, embracing your Sacred Sexuality, and even learning womb wisdom, to truly get to know yourself and what brings you pleasure.
FERTILITY & SEXUALITY HERBS
~The fourth tip I have to tap into Sacred Sexuality is to use fertility and sexually stimulating herbs. This can be brewed in teas, taken as tinctures, or even used for Yoni Steaming. Some of my favorite herbs that fit into these categories are Nettles, Red Raspberry Leaf, Damiana, Lady’s Mantle, Red Clover, Rose, and Shatavari. Damiana is awesome as a sexually stimulating herb that is also potent for Shadow Work! Of course, Rose is likely the most obvious one on this list, for she is an ally for romance and self-love in general. Shatavari is a great herb for increasing fertility and potency, making her very sexy indeed. The others on the list are all excellent uterine tonics, making them essential allies for women’s health, which I also firmly believe helps us on our Sacred Sexuality journeys!
SELF-LOVE MEDITATIONS
~The fifth tip is along the same vein as the reasoning for including specific herbs in my last tip, since focusing on self-love is one of the best ways to truly begin to embrace your own sexuality! Specifically, I think self-love meditations are such a beautiful, soothing, and powerful way to begin to tap into what your true desires are, therefore getting to know yourself better. After all, learning to love ourselves first is the best way to build healthy relationships with others, and even to build a healthy relationship with our bodies!
SEX WITH A BELOVED AND TRUSTED PARTNER
~The sixth tip is honestly the most obvious one on my list, but I had to include it! Clearly, having sex with a trusted and loved partner is one of the most straightforward ways to embrace Sacred Sexuality. However, suppose you have not done the Shadow Work, or learned to love yourself more. In that case, it is hard to fully give yourself over to pleasure with a partner (or to find a partner you can truly trust even) so I think the other tips are incredibly important to truly find bliss in this very important tip!
RITUAL BATHING, SELF-PLEASURE PRACTICES, & PERSONAL ASSOCIATIONS WITH SENSUOUSNESS
~The seventh and final tip is a bit more free-form. This is because it is rooted in what you personally find pleasurable and learning what makes you feel most attuned to your Sacred Sexuality! I put Ritual Bathing on this tip because it is one of my personal favorite ways to tap into sensuality, but I left the rest quite simple with self-pleasure and personal associations. I suggest that you find what makes you feel the most pleasure and develop practices that work best for you!
~I hope you have enjoyed reading some of my thoughts on how to tap into your Sacred Sexuality. What are some of your favorite ways to tap into your own sensuality? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!
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Further Reading
- The Sacred Sex Rites of Ishtar by Annie Dieu-Le-Veut